Today is another opportunity to make a difference. Even if it’s in some small way. The smallest act of kindness can make a huge change in someone’s life. Have you ever visited the Humans of New York website? I love seeing the posts every day. It’s a reminder that every one has an important and impactful story. We are all human, going through this thing called life…
Look around the web and you will find a ton of stories of kindness and changing someone’s life. Here are two recent ones about crowd-sourcing kindness:
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- Teen’s Humans of New York Story Inspires President Obama
Approaching your daily life from a place of good intentions and kindness is a skill that needs to be practiced. It’s something you have to be aware of which reminded me of a recent post I read that asked if you were aware of your breath?
Having control of your breath can help decrease stress, connect you to your life purpose, and help you be present in the moment. My mantra bracelet says “be here now’ – which I wear to remind me to be present and learn to enjoy what’s happening at that moment. I tend to be a rusher –wanting to head into the next experience or moment before the first one is even done. I have been working on slowing down and learning to flourish in the experience – not just wait for the experience to be over. All of that is wrapped up in fear because I am not being comfortable with instability. But, you know what? I am finding that instability can actually inspire and motivate me to greater things!
- Saturday: Boxing
- Sunday: Boxing
Thanksgiving went by so fast – if you stop and think about it, this whole year flew by. It is now December – a month full of joy and happiness but also stress and loneliness for a lot of people. A facebook friend recently shared some perspective about life in general…
Every time I help with a funeral I leave church and go on with the rest of my weekend. At some point I say out loud I can’t believe that person is done. They are no longer here, their life is over, and here I am going to Costco or out to eat, just like any other Saturday. Today I said this and Laura said you say that every time. And every time it is true. I’m not sure what the point of this post is but I wonder if it would be good for everyone to help with a funeral. Maybe you’re smart enough to get that realization without a funeral. But handling one not for your loved one but for a stranger, so you aren’t completely broken inside, really puts the shortness, fragility, and gift of life into perspective. Makes you appreciate those errands with your family.
I feel the same way. Sometimes it hits me when I am doing mundane things – there are a ton of people battling illness, depression, debilitating phobias that are unable to do even the daily things we take for granted. Not to mention the unfathomable, unknown of death.
We are coming up on the one year anniversary of the sudden death of my friend Khal. I pass his townhouse almost every day and still find myself thinking about him. His kids are adapting to life without him, growing up and moving on. Life does indeed go on…
And once you realize how short life is, how it continues on, even after something challenging occurs, forgiveness becomes more important. We can pull from personal experience, how hard it can be to forgive someone who has done you wrong. But life is short and holding on to anger, hurt and shock serves no healthy purpose. In the past year or so, I have definitely felt mistreated by some. Whether expected or completely unexpected, in the end, does it matter how or why things were done? What’s done is done and we can choose to move forward…
This was my year to really look at aspects of my life and work on those that leave me feeling unfulfilled. Forgiveness and moving forward without anger has been a big hurdle for me in my life. I’m forever amazed at those around me that can rebuild relationships and move forward by seeing the situation for what it was. I feel so deeply that I often feel physically hurt for a period of time afterwards –and although I go on and move forward, I tend to harbor anger and resentment about it. I don’t want to hold on to that shit though. There is so much good in the world and so many good people that it really does seem like a waste to let old wounds fester…
Easier said than done, but for me I keep going back to intentions. Thinking about situations and people with the idea that they are coming from a place of good intentions…sometimes it works, sometimes not.
And with life being short, go out and have some fun. Step out of your comfort zone before the year is over…
I have added Zumba to my exercise regime. Still boxing 5x a week, but decided to do something outside of my norm once in a while. I am not a dancer but it really does help you just realize you just need to let loose and move your body.
With summer practically here, I’ve been seeing a lot of stories about body image, exercise, and obesity. Nothing like reading about how fat we all are to get us feeling comfortable to get in a bathing suit, right? Yesterday I came across the story of Taylor Townsend -who was told she was too overweight to be a tennis champ. Ignoring those people, she has now broke a record and is the youngest player to advance to the third round of the French Open since 1993.
“The U.S. Tennis Association attempted to keep her out of competition at the U.S. Open. It was suggested they would not restore their support until the teen, then the top-ranked junior player in the world, lost weight.”
Obesity is a very serious problem and recent reports show that no nation has lowered its obesity rates in 33 years– which is terribly alarming, but fat shaming and making people feel less than valued because of their weight isn’t going to solve any problems. As the picture to the right shows – body types are different for women and we carry weight differently. I wonder what Taylor Townsend’s actual blood work and vital stats look like — I bet she is healthier than the average person and has certainly shown what she can do.
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- Monday: Power Boxing
- Tuesday: Flow Yoga
They say that if you are feeling down – go outside and get close to nature. So, after the kiddos went to school and boxing, I laced up and hit the W&OD trail and ran. As I ran, I also stopped to appreciate how beautiful the trail is. I took a lot of pictures and thought – with scenery like that, why in the world would anyone run on a treadmill of they didn’t have to? I am not a fan of running, but I recognize that I need to do it more to get better. I don’t put any pressure on myself at this point –so I stop when I need to and push other times. I’m doing it for me — that’s key to remember! I’m out there FOR ME — I ran a total of 3.2 miles — a 5K and did indeed feel better
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I like to think I am a fairly good reader of people — so when I sense there is something up with someone, I usually find out I’m right. And what I find out in almost every situation that bubbles up into some hurt feelings, communication was the issue. Poor or lack of communication is at the heart of so many misunderstandings. At the end of the day, think about intentions and choose kindness.
Here are some tips so when you have a situation that needs addressing – you just DO IT! Tips on Having Difficult Conversations
I’m not sure if its because of all the texting/mobile behavior, but people don’t know how to communicate. They send emails when they should pick up the phone, they text when they should just pull someone aside and talk. I see it more and more — and it creates a lot of confusion, misunderstanding and conflict. Not many people out there like to confront issues or address conflict, but if you take the imitative and approach it with good intentions – it usually resolves fairly quickly with less misunderstandings and hurt feelings.
Last night, I read THIS: The Day I Started Lying To Ruth. By the last page I was full out sobbing. Anyone who has to care for someone with cancer can relate to the fears and experiences shared. For the most part, I live beyond the cancer we battled but every one in a while there is a story or an experience that brings it back. It was definitely worth the read even with the emotions that bubbled up.
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Power Boxing at Title 1 in Ashburn
I have been fighting off a chest cold for a few days now and it finally kicked my butt last night and today. It hurts to cough and that’s all I want to do, so I have rested quite a bit today to make sure I am not making it worse. Some rest days are Sick Days.
I also took the opportunity to use the Breathe essential oil from Doterra and drink some Lavender Tea. We shall see how tomorrow goes…
I’ve been meaning to share some interesting things I noticed while on vacation in San Fran and how they have inspired me to make changes to my daily life…
First, if you are shopping in San Fran and want a store provided shopping bag (plastic or paper), you are charged 10 cents. How many of us have way too many plastic shopping bags at home? I have piles of them. I know some people use them to pick up after their pets, but I am sure even then, we all have too many. I am going to work on getting in the habit of bringing my own bag to the mall, target, grocery shopping etc. If more of us did it – we could make a real impact on the environment.
Second, my brother uses bamboo charcoal to filter water. He keeps a pitcher of water on his counter top with a bamboo charcoal square in it. It filters water and saves you money.
The first benefit of bamboo charcoal when used as a water filter lies in its composition. Bamboo charcoal is extremely porous and the activated carbon in it allows it to do a couple of things to make your water better. The pores and carbon absorb impurities from the water such as added chemicals that are normally used to clean water and pollutants that slip by anyway. These things not only leave a bad taste but also make the water unhealthier to drink, especially for babies and children. The charcoal can be placed in a jug of water for about six hours to do its work or can be put in a plastic filter over the tap so that the water can run through the stone (though this won’t be quite as effective). The impurities are stored in the charcoal until it can be recharged under sunlight for a few hours. Activated carbon bamboo charcoal is the best way to go because the carbon allows the stone to absorb more impurities, so you can just pick up any old chunk of bamboo charcoal and expect it to work as well.
My brother said you can find it in an asian grocery store, so I am going to check out Lottes this weekend to see if it’s there. If not, I may have to order it online although I can’t seem to find it on Amazon either.
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While I am on my girl’s trip with my daughter, I have compiled some thoughts about Perspective. I believe that events and experiences that offer a chance for us to gain perspective are gifts. By gaining perspective on life’s events, you are better able to think through and handle whatever comes your way. It’s not always easy, but you are able to focus on what’s really important and appreciate all you have…
Hope everyone is having a lovely Wednesday evening — and staying warm on this atypical spring evening.
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- Push ups/Pull ups
- Mobility work
- Broad Jumps/Manmakers
- Core Work