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Depression: Who Are You To Judge?

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As I spent time yesterday reading about Robin Williams, it became clear how judgmental some people insist on being.  Who are we to judge someone else’s actions? We were not in his shoes at that moment or the ones that led up to it. All I can imagine is the immense pain he must have felt to actually want to die. One blogger wrote about how selfish he was by taking his own life. Another wrote about how it was a choice he decided to make. I am not a doctor nor super educated in depression – I have felt very low during periods of my life and can attest to the fact that you aren’t necessarily capable of making rational, clear decisions. The decisions you make are filtered by what you are feeling and thinking every second of every day, so if you are depressed or happy – it influences your actions.

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The actions you take while you are in the throws of Mr D. seem rational at the time. They seem like the only logical choice to make that will help you feel better and stop the pain.  Regardless, we have no room to judge what Robin Williams decided to do. Is it something you would do?  I hope not. Do I wish he had not done it? Absolutely. I feel sad but realize that I can not comment on someone else’s journey and no one else should feel as if they are entitled to either.  We really need to take a look at our society as a whole and find ways to be kinder and act with more compassion. We are all here for a short time…

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Perspective and Hope

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I was really out of sorts yesterday. I had a client meeting during the day and then attended my friend Khal’s memorial/visitation. I totally broke down from the moment it started. I just couldn’t stop thinking about him and his boys. He loved his sons more than the world. When I first met Kal – four years ago, I remember him talking to me about how important family was. He told me it was THE most important thing.

All the stories shared last night demonstrated how kind and caring Khal was — his light was clearly threaded through every story.  He was a stand up man who loved his boys more than the world — and my hope for them is that they grow up to be as kind and caring as he was.  Now they will have to learn how to live their new normal. My heart is just broken for the entire family. Khal was 43 years old — and his family from Syria couldn’t make it to the funeral which broke my heart as well.

Alexandra, Khal’s wife – shared a story with me about things happening for a reason. Khal had his massive heart attack on Weds evening — and normally the boys would have been over at his house (they were separated), but because there was a chorus concert at the school – they had switched nights and were at their Mom’s.  I can’t even begin to imagine how horrible that would have been if the boys woke up to find their Dad. Divine intervention at work —

I can’t seem to get it all out of my mind – It’s another reminder to us all to gain perspective on our lives and evaluate what matters at the end of the day.

I was pretty tired this morning –emotionally wiped out, but knew that a workout would help me feel better – so got my butt up and went to Highbar CrossFit. 

WOrk Hard and Be Kind To be around fun, kind people and de-stress through a workout –there really isn’t much better solution to helping me feel better.

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Feeding Your Mind with Stories of Kindness

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1379295_10151958974246399_2068932014_nAs I mentioned a few weeks back, I am focused on surrounding myself with positive, happy people. People who are making a difference in their lives by making a difference in others’ lives. I want to learn from them, extract inspiration from them, be motivated by what they are doing, and think like they do. INo one’s life is perfect but I do believe that what you feed your mind is just as important as what you feed your body, if not more!

After reading these stories, ask yourself “What can you do to be kinder?

 

An aspect of this is sharing stories of real kindness – of people just doing whatever they can to make someone’s life a little bit easier. Here are a few I recently shared via Facebook:

  • This story was posted on Facebook, but there is no direct link to the story – so I am reposting it below:

1395453_607500229313308_2100540127_nThe woman on the left is a mother from Miami who was so desperate to feed her hungry family that she was trying to steal a lot of food.

The woman on the right is Miami-Dade County Police Officer Vicki Thomas. Officer Thomas was about to arrest Jessica Robles but changed her mind at the last minute. 
Instead of arresting her, she bought Robles $100 worth of groceries: “I made the decision to buy her some groceries because arresting her wasn’t going to solve the problem with her children being hungry.”
And there’s no denying they were hungry. Robles’ 12 year old daughter started crying when she told local TV station WSVN about how dire their situation was:

“[It’s] not fun to see my brother in the dirt hungry, asking for food, and we have to tell him, ‘There is nothing here.’”

Officer Thomas says she has no question that what she did was right:

“To see them go through the bags when we brought them in, it was like Christmas. That $100 to me was worth it.”

But Officer Thomas did have one request:

“The only thing I asked of her is, when she gets on her feet, that she help someone else out. And she said she would.”

And guess what? The story gets even better.

After word got out about what happened people donated another $700 for Jessica Robles to spend at the grocery store. 

And then best of all a local business owner invited her in for an interview and ended up hiring her on the spot as a customer service rep. 

She started crying when he told her:

“There’s no words how grateful I am that you took your time and helped somebody out. Especially somebody like me.”

And to think it all started with one veteran police officer trusting her “instinct” instead of going “by the book”.

  • il_570xN.363819688_t8yvMan Who Saved Over 600 Kids From Nazis Gets a Touching Surprise

Over 50 years after saving 669 kids from Nazi death camps, Sir Nicholas Winton gets a tearful surprise on TV. Everyone in the audience was one of those children he saved, all grown up. This man is an Angel on Earth.

An act of kindness can mean the world to someone.

And this one is a bit different, but I think still shows how fate and kindness can change someone’s life:

Steve Perry, yes from the band Journey, was helping create a film about breast cancer. Saw someone in the film and just instantly connected. Reached out to her and it was meant to be. Unfortunately she was in the film because she was battling breast cancer herself, and ultimately it took her life.

This story touched me so much – i am sure that both of them coming together to build their life was a Godsend in her life. And although, cancer ultimately ended it way too soon – her final year, were spent loving, being loved and cherished by someone who was profoundly in love with her and meant to be there. It’s another example of things happening for a reason and following your heart and passion.

Can We all Be Kind: Practicing Kindness

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It’s Friday – Friday – Friday! Can you tell how happy I am this week is over? It’s busy season at my job, so people’s stress levels are high, tempers are short and we all have too much to do. I am lucky that I genuinely like what I do because it really does make it easier to handle it all.  Someone told me earlier this week that they could tell I like what I do by the energy and enthusiasm I emit. How nice is that?

kindness - Nurture More Kindness My life is definitely not perfect, but there are so many things in it that make me so thankful and happy. It makes some of the other crap seem so trivial and insignificant.

The other day I read a graduation commencement speech all about Kindness and it got me thinking about it in context of the people around me.   What is it about ourselves that prevents us from being kind – if you stop and think about it, whether we are or not, really is a reflection of us inside. How we filter others & their actions – how it makes us feel. What can we do to just be kinder in our own lives – go out of our way to help, no matter how bit or small. A smile, a wave, a word of encouragement, a gesture just because — whatever it is. If we all start to be aware and make it a daily focus, I bet we could make some real changes in our lives. Simple acts of kindness can go a long, long way and help both the recipient and yourself in return. How can that not be good?

George Saunders’s Advice to Graduates

“What I regret most in my life are failures of kindness. 

Those moments when another human being was there, in front of me, suffering, and I responded…sensibly.  Reservedly.  Mildly.

It’s a little facile, maybe, and certainly hard to implement, but I’d say, as a goal in life, you could do worse than: Try to be kinder.

Now, the million-dollar question:  What’s our problem?  Why aren’t we kinder?” 

After reading that yesterday morning, I came upon this story last night: The Mystery Man at Miller Park almost as if it were a sign. A sign that good people, who practice kindness are all over the place.

Thank you for what you did for my son at Miller Park on a beautiful Sunday afternoon. As we were preparing to leave the stadium, I reached out my hand to offer my sincere thanks for your act of kindness. To my surprise, you pulled me in for a hug.

This young man, who at the end of the story – they did locate – showed his character and sincere kindness and that little boy will NEVER forget it and I am going to go out on a limb and say will probably behave similarly as he grows up. What that act of kindness did was help set the foundation for a lifetime.

Have a great Friday!!

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Welcome to the Kindness community

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Welcome to the Kindness community

Thought this was a good site even though it is filled with annoying ads. Reminders on a regular basis of the kindness that happens around the world.

Wish you could find more positive stories in the news — stories that inspire and uplift you? You’ve come to the right place.

Kindness is your daily source of inspiration and guide to making a difference in fresh and exciting ways, no matter where you are. Each day, this site will unearth unique stories of giving with exclusive interviews, fresh takes on news stories, plenty of tips, and links to interesting resources.

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