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I was trying to figure out what really bothered me about the latest Kim Kardashian instagram image. It’s her body, so what do I care if she wants to show it to the world. But yet, it still bothered me. Then I read something posted by Pink today on Twitter that captured what I was feeling:
“Shout out to all of the women, across the world, using their brains, their strength, their work ethic, their talent, their ‘magic’ that they were born with, that only they possess. It may not ever bring you as much ‘attention’ or bank notes as using your body, your sex, your tits and asses, but women like you don’t need that kind of attention. In the quiet moments, you will feel something deeper than the fleeting excitement resulting from attention, you will feel something called pride and self respect.” -Pink
It is absolutely her right to show her body off and be proud. I just can’t help but think about what happens when her ‘looks’ stop getting her attention. What happens then? More plastic surgery, treatments, perfect lighting to keep up the facade? I would imagine that when your fame and career all stem from how you look – you get wrapped up and it consumes you.
When I saw her IG posts, I didn’t stop and say oh, i wish I was just like her. Quite the opposite actually, It bothered me. It felt cheap, unnecessary and an over the top cry for attention. It also angered me – my teen daughter sees images like that all over the place now and in her still forming mind, she begins to think that’s worthy of attention and worthy of emulation.
It makes parenting that much harder…
- What’s wrong with the American diet? More than half our calories come from ‘ultra-processed’ foods
- The Water Diet: Can you lose weight just by drinking more water?
I am taking a few rest days but I plan to still stretch and maybe walk and do some extra mobility. I have been super busy at work too — and the holidays are coming. Nothing like the perfect storm of stress to get you moving right? HA!
I have been thinking about the voices in your head. Not the crazy ones that tell people to go out and do crazy shit. These are the voices in your head that tell you you aren’t good enough, thin enough, pretty enough, smart enough. The little self defeating, negative nagging voice that isn’t there to help push you. It’s there to put you down, to make you lose your nerve and continually distorts your view of yourself.
One of my favorite songs of the past few years has been Pink – F’in Perfect
You’re so mean when you talk about yourself
You were wrong
Change the voices in your head, make them like you instead…
Pretty pretty please
Don’t you ever ever feel
Like you’re less than f—in’ perfect
Have you ever stopped and realized how many times a day your voice inside your head is mean to you? You wouldn’t let your family or friends talk to you like that – so why is it ok for you to talk to yourself like that? What happened to us that created this ugly, mean voice and what can we do about it? Is it as easy as being present in the moment and changing the tone of the voice as it’s talking to you?
Sometimes I play this game with negative people. I am sure you have a few in your life too — they are just Debbie Downers, Eeyores. Their filters on life are just skewed. Everything is half empty if not completely empty. It used to drive me crazy to be around them until I started playing this game — that I learned from one of my boot camp friends Mary Ann. She told me when you come across someone like that — turn what they are saying around into a positive. The Eeyore will either stop talking to you about stuff or they will see the light -and start seeing it in a much more positive light. And it’s a good, fun mental exercise for you as well.
You can play this game with your own little voice. I constantly have to remind myself to stop the crap talking about myself — and there is a difference with the voice that pushes you to new heights and the one that wants to just sit there loudly and prevent you from living fit and sore!
Here are some ideas I found about helping put the lights out on those negative voices in your head — I’m going to start focusing on it, how about you?
I’m not one for these weeks devoted to self awareness and all, but this one is certainly carrying the right message. I work on this sort of stuff every single day. Self talk – the little voice we have inside of us that second guesses, fills you with self doubt and questions or self worth. It’s the same voice that tries to deflate and devalue all the work I have done living healthy and fit.
It’s not uncommon for women (or even men) to bond with each other over the travails of their appearance: their hair, their clothes, their weight, their fat. Sound familiar? If so, take note. The week of Oct. 16-22 isFat Talk Free Week. It’s a week in which people are encouraged to stop their “fat talk.” What is fat talk? It’s comments like” I feel so fat in these clothes,” or “do I look fat?” It can also be saying to someone else, “You look great, did you lose weight?” This implies that lost weight is the metric of looking good.
Although some women say that such talk makes them feel better, research suggests that in fact the opposite is true. Do you engage in fat talk? If so, here’s a challenge: Try not doing it — for a day, then for a string of days, then for a week. And what better time then during Fat Talk Free week.
If you partake in fat talk, it’s in part because our culture encourages it. Through various media (including TV, film, magazine ads and articles), we’re all encouraged to think that our bodies should approximate a thin “ideal.” And if we don’t have that type of body (which the vast majority of us don’t), then we shouldn’t feel okay about our bodies. Unfortunately, most of us go along with this premise and we dislike our bodies. Fight back against this premise and the way it makes you feel. To help you in this endeavor, Oct. 19 is Love Your Body Day.
This song by Pink always speaks to that voice inside —