Posts tagged suicide
I found out a former co-worker of mine took his life two weeks ago. I can’t get him out of mind. While I didn’t know him all that well, he appeared to be a happy, successful man and showed no signs of what was to come. I have come to find out that he was having marital and family problems that must have weighed heavily on his mind. Still, nothing is bad enough to end it all. I can’t even imagine getting to that point where you no longer want to exist. I have been sad, and down – who hasn’t, but never have I considered ending my life to solve it.
I can only imagine the pain he must have been in and the despair he was feeling. I hope he has found peace now and my thoughts are with his wife, kids and family as they try to understand what happened and learn to live a new normal..
This month is National Suicide Prevention Month and to remember my former co-worker, Amrik, here is some information and resources:
When it comes to suicide prevention, EveryDay Matters. In honor of World Suicide Prevention Day and Suicide Prevention Month, we thank those that work in a community and take action every day.
- The Trevor Project: 1.866.488.7386
a 24-hour free and confidential crisis and suicide prevention helpline specifically for lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender and/or questioning youth.
- Suicide Prevention Resource Center
- National Suicide Prevention Lifeline
May is Mental Health Awareness Month. Did you know that about 42.5 million American adults (or 18.2 percent of the total adult population in the United States) suffer from some mental illness, enduring conditions such as depression, bipolar disorder or schizophrenia?
I’m sharing the stories in the links below because they got me thinking about how easy it is to look at someone’s life and assume everything is perfect. With social media, people’s lives look idyllic . All smiles and photo filters. If you took it all at face value, you would think that everyone has it good and living the life. But you know what? The reality is that we all have struggles and our stories. You never do know what is going on behind the filtered pictures on Instagram or the stories shared on Facebook.
Life today is busy. People are more stressed out and pushed and pulled in a bunch of different directions. Our bodies aren’t designed to handle this type of constant stress. Add in that some people have the type of personality that can’t handle things being undone. They can’t live with things being less than perfect. Many people who suffer from depression or anxiety are these type A personalities.
- Some Practical Thoughts on Suicide
Tim Ferris talks about suicide, and why I’m still on this planet.
- Penn Runner’s Depression Masked on Social Media
On Instagram, Madison Holleran’s life looked ideal: athlete at the University of Pennsylvania, bright student, beloved friend. But the photos hid the reality of someone struggling to go on:
Trust your instinct
The point of this post is to remind people out there that not everything is what it seems. No one’s life is perfect. If you feel like something is not right with a family member, friend or acquaintance – ASK. And if they say Nothing – ASK Again and again and again.
I was listening to the radio this morning on the way to workout and they were talking about the normal bar — what do most people feel and think about things based on a study that was recently done. I don’t put much stock into stuff like that but I did find one point interesting –that most people who took this survey are generally happy with their lives. Life is not all excitement and thrills — there are ups and downs — and based on Happy, that documentary I mentioned the other day, I think it has nothing to do with money, status or location.
I heard some sad news yesterday that goes to show you — that someone can look amazing to everyone but underneath the looks, they can be a troubled, fragile person. Someone at a different local CrossFit gym committed suicide this week. My husband asked me if I knew the person and at first, I said No. He sent me her picture and it dawned on me –I did meet her. She was in the Oly Trainer’s course I attend last spring –and the reason I remember her so well was because I remember thinking about how amazing she looked — strong, tall, blonde, had a toned CrossFit shape and was pretty. I said to myself, I wish I looked like that. I distinctly remember saying that stuff about her. And then I hear that news – it’s so very sad to know that someone was hurting that much that they felt dying was the only way out of their pain.
I have had very low points in my own life and know the pain I was in, so I can only imagine the magnitude of pain she was in. It really reminds you how fragile we all are. The quote “Be Kind for Everyone You Meet is Fighting a Hard Battle” is so true. The outward appearance can’t be trusted. No one is perfect and we all have crap going on in our lives that will challenge us to our core, so keep that in mind, the next time you see someone that seems rattled.
Technology is becoming as normal to us all as brushing our teeth and it’s causing some of us to become de-sensitized to people’s feelings. I am finding people are just being meaner online – it’s like an open invitation to disregard common respect. It’s not a good thing, keeping your humanity and sense of compassion for other’s plights is what keeps us all functioning and progressing. We lose that – we lose everything.
My thoughts are with her family and friends as they make sense of it all. Very very sad.
5×5 Shoulder Press 68#
21 KB Swings
12 Pull Ups
Not my greatest performance this morning. I couldn’t catch my breath, started wheezing and took a few too many breaks. It’s frustrating to me — because the last few weeks, I am finishing last! I know it’s not a competition, but I don’t like to finish last. I ordered a Breathing Exerciser. I have read about it and it is supposed to help boost my respiratory performance if I use it regularly. I had one a while back but lost it and found it did work — so time to tackle this obstacle.
Here’s a few things I read last night:
Some good simple tips about eating Paleo. It’s really not that complicated!
CrossFit incorporates a lot of Plyometric work — jumping on boxes, quick drills.. all of it goes into the making of a fit, strong person.